Diagnosing And Ending An Addictive Relationship. (Concluding part)

Part 3 of 3: Embracing Independence

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   Decide upon how you will handle the person if they get in touch in the future. You should limit contact if the person reduces your self-esteem and makes you feel small or unloved.
   • For example, if the person wants to talk on the phone, suggest a date and time, and then go to a supportive friends’ house to take the call.
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   Expect withdrawal symptoms. In place of euphoria, excitement and infatuation, you may experience fear, self-doubt, loneliness and panic. These are normal parts of breaking a bond that gave you some positive feelings. ^[5]

You Girls Are All Ugly Cows - Nigerian Transgender, Miss Sahhara

Nigerian Transgender Miss Sahhara has spoken out after getting abused yesterday by Nigerians.

She went on her facebook and decided to air out her views on those she tagged her haters.

She described these individuals as having boring life and can't come close to what she has achieved in life physically.

She also denied reports that she got her body shape through plastic surgery , she said it was through hard and smart work, understanding her body.

Who will win in the celebrity style showdown?

Blake Lively, Emma Watson and Jennifer Lawrence are among the celebs whose style reigns supreme. Photo: Stratraks Photo (left); Reuters (center); WireImage (right)

Let’s face it, fame is a grueling game.
Consciously or not, celebrities are in perpetual competition with each other, and nowhere does the battle rage more fiercely than on the red carpet.
These ladies fight a particularly close battle because their shticks are so similar. But in the oversaturated celebrity arena there can only be one winner — who will it be?

Asari Dokubo Charges South-South To Prepare For War Against The North

Controversial Niger Delta Activist, Asari Dokubo has urged the people of the South-South region to prepare for war following the spate of terrorism in the country caused by the dreaded Boko haram sect.

The founder of the Niger Delta People’s Volunteer Force, NDPVF who said the killings by the sect is designed to unleash terror on the people of the region made this statement at the 10th annual Major Isaac Adaka Boro Public Lecture in Ughelli, Delta State.

Asari warned the people of the region to act fast to avoid being enslaved as he said the growing onslaught of the Boko Haram was a war rehearsal of the ‘Fulani feudalist’ against the region which produced the country’s economy mainstay.

Meet Nigeria’s One Hit Wonders

They are no failure. No. But they did not succeed. They only left as fast as they came. They dropped hot singles. Scooped the awards and headlined the shows. Then cut! They vanish. Time fades them away.

They’re Nigeria’s one hit wonders. No thanks to Nigeria’s ever evolving and competitive industry, these are the latest of that enviable long list…

KEL

*Kel

She was tipped to show the light. She was touted as the next big thing. She was thought to contend with Sasha P. She did not. With her Waa Wa Alright blazing single came raised hopes. Hopes came crashing with her 2009 The Investment album. The album in Clarence Peters own words was a “flop”. Trouble. She looked Clarence in the eye and left his label. Then she lost soul mate endorsement deal to Mo’cheddah. Game over. Kel Vanished. Not a word has been heard.

Five African Countries Send Battalions To Combat Boko Haram

Nigeria, Chad, Niger, Cameroon and Benin will contribute one battalion each to the international force set up to fight Boko Haram. Nigeria, Chad, Benin, Cameroon and Niger will contribute one battalion of troops each to the international force established to fight Boko Haram and other rebel groups in the region.

This is one of the decisions reached at the Regional Summit on Security held in Paris last Saturday, the Special Adviser to the President on Media and Publicity, Reuben Abati, told journalists during a news briefing in Abuja on Tuesday.

"Nigeria and other countries in the sub-region will continue to cooperate and coordinate efforts to combat the Boko Haram menace," Abati said.

United States, France and United Kingdom will extend technical assistance to the international force established to patrol the five countries’ border areas. This will add to the support offered by US, UK, France, Israel and China prior to the Paris regional summit.

The Media Adviser added that Nigeria and its neighbouring states are commitеed to set up an effective border management regime that would fully prevent the proliferation of small arms, light weapons and other equipment made available to terrorists.

Boko Haram Kills 17 In Alagarno, Borno State

According to latest news reported by journalists of BBC, Boko Haram are suspected to be the blamed for killing 17 people in new attack in Alagarno village, in Borno State.

According to reports, the insurgents of Boko Haram spent hours at night allegedly killing in Alagarno village and than went away on stolen vehicles. They have arrived around 11 p.m. and left around 3 a.m.

The attack happened just a day after 118 died in bomb attacks in Jos city, the attack also made supposedly by Boko Haram and the same day at the other attack with 30 people dead in Shawa Damboa LGA, in Borno state.

Alagarno village is situated close to Chibok, from where over 200 girls were kidnapped over a month ago by Boko Haram.

As reported by witnesses of the attack, the attackers arrived around midnight and killed and looted for several hours. One of the survivors told the journalists of BBC that they torched every building in the city. 

Exposed: Why Nigeria Drones couldn't Be Deployed To Hunt Boko Haram

Tsur Dvir, a marketing officer for Aeronautics Defense Systems, a firm based south of Tel Aviv, Israel that supplied Nigeria with Aerostar unmanned aerial vehicles on Tuesday, revealed that the country's drones which were bought years ago cannot be deployed to hunt Boko Haram, because they are grounded due to poor maintenance.  

The marketer, who made the shocking revelation to an international media, said that the Nigeria surveillance drones could have been used to track insurgents hide out in efforts to rescue the kidnapped girls, but they aren't factional. 

"To the best of our knowledge, these systems aren’t operational" Dvir said. 

Watch A Gifted 11-Year-Old Maddie Ziegler Dance In Sia's Video 'Chandelier

A music video for "Chandelier", a song by Australian singer Sia, has been seen over 10 million times in just two weeks, and much of the credit for the success goes to 11-year-old Maddie Ziegler’s breathtaking dance.

Viral sensation: 11-year-old Maddie Ziegler Dances in the video for Sia's Chandelier, which has more than 10 million views in two weeks

Although the video featuring Ziegler wearing a blond wig and dancing in a small apartment to the choreography of Ryan Heffington is fairly simple, numerous experts say that this may be one of the best music videos of the year.

Diagnosing And Ending An Addictive Relationship. (Cont...)

Part 2 of 3: Breaking Attachments

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   Pay attention to what parts of your relationship are fantasy and what are reality. We have a tendency to keep fantasies about what a person is like in the hopes of improving them. We also may create fantasy narratives about the relationship that we tell other people.
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   Decide what physical connections you have to that person, such as finances, housing or work projects. Understand that you will need to give yourself extra time to break those connections. Also ask yourself, if your relationship addiction is based on conveniences that you have combined.

Dr Dre set to be hip hop's first billionaire as Apple is set to buy Beats Electronics for $3.2bn

Super producer and rapper Dr Dre is set to become Hip Hop's first billionaire as Apple Inc. is close to sealing a multi-billion dollar deal to purchase Beats Electronics, the company he founded with music producer Jimmy Lovine in 2008. The company produces the popular Beats By Dre headphones and also runs a music streaming service, which Apple is more interested in than the headphones itself. If this happens, it will be Apple's biggest acquisition till date. ($3.2billion)

Apple wants a music-on-demand service to rival Spotify, which is a digital music service that gives people access to millions of songs.

It was announced today that the acquisition could be announced as early as next week. 

Last night, singer Tyrese posted a video where Dr Dre proclaimed himself the first billionaire in Hip Hop. Dr Dre is currently worth $550million. See the video after the cut...

Nigerian Soldiers Acquire Amphibious Warfare Training

The U.S Marine Corps Africa, on Friday completed a three-week training for 100 Nigerian soldiers in amphibious and riverine warfare.

Brig.-Gen. Enang Ukagu, Commander of Amphibious Training School (ATS), Calabar, who made this known to journalists said the training commenced on April 17, and ended on Thursday.  

He said the soldiers were trained on fire team formation, use of micro terrain, preparation for combat, mission planning, shooting position, casualty evacuation, among others.

Ukagu, while speaking at the grand finale said the objective of the training was to equip ATS personnel with basic concept of amphibious and riverine operations.  

He said that the exercise provided the officers with high level military intelligence and knowledge of combating sea piracy and other forms of illegalities in riverine areas.

Dencia says #BringBackOurGirls protests should stop

The singer feels all the protests should stop...and also mentioned that she was the one who sent out messages to US celebs to tweet support for the campaign....

'No girls are missing' - ex Niger Delta militant Asari Dokubo declares

 I can't even put the things he said into words...read it after the cut...

Jungle Justice: Angry Mob Bunt Kidnap Suspect In Akure; Plice Rescue Two

A middle-aged man was set ablaze yesterday [May 7] at Adegbola Junction in Akure, Ondo State. The man, who was suspected to be mentally-ill, could not explain why he was in the company of two children.

Some youths concluded that he was a kidnapper and set him ablaze. The incident occurred around 6pm.

Also yesterday, two suspected kidnappers were rescued from mobs in Akure. At Owode-Okegan, a woman in her 60s, allegedly disguised as a beggar, was accused of being a kidnapper.

It was learnt that out of curiosity, some youths accosted her and on interrogation discovered that she was allegedly pursuing a school girl. Within minutes, a crowd had gathered. The woman allegedly confessed that she and 14 others were sent out to kidnap people by an unnamed person. Various denominations of money, a sponge, black soap, white sheets containing Yoruba incantations, traditional rings and a white rosary were found on her. The woman, who was wearing Iro and Buba of lace material, was stripped naked and beaten up.

#BringbackourGirls Update - Police Offer N50Million Reward

The Nigerian police has announced a N50million reward to anyone who can proffer credible information to aid the police in locating and rescuing the schoolgirls abducted from Chibok. The Nigerian Police released this announcement on their official website :

The Nigeria Police hereby announce a cash reward of Fifty Million Naira
 (N50, 000, 000.00) to anyone who volunteers credible information that will lead to the location and rescue of the female students abducted from Government Girls Secondary School, Chibok, Borno State.
The Force urges all patriotic citizens with such useful information to contact the following numbers:
 09-2914649
 08081777309
08055547536
 08032125050
 08034617591
 08035969731

While calling on the general public to be part of the solution to the present security challenge, the Police High Command also reassures all citizens that any information given would be treated anonymously and with utmost confidentiality.

CSP FRANK MBA
 FORCE PUBLIC RELATIONS OFFICER,
 FORCE HEADQUARTERS,
 ABUJA.

How to Tell if An Android App is Potentially Dangerous

Yes, some Android apps can be malicious — Apple, Microsoft, and the media seem happy to remind us about this. Take a few basic precautions and you can avoid these potentially dangerous apps.

Google doesn’t manually approve apps like Apple does, but they do scan apps in the Google Play Store for malware. Permissions, reviews, and other reputation information can also tell us a lot.

It’s Not In the Play Store

Android allows you to install apps from outside the Google Play Store thanks to side loading. This extra freedom allows for more choice — like the ability to install apps from the Amazon App Store, if you prefer — but it also opens up extra risks. Just like on Windows, Mac OS X, or Linux, you can get software from anywhere on the web and install it. And, also like on desktop operating systems, people can write malicious apps and distribute them via the web.

As we mentioned in our overview of whether Android antivirus apps are worth using, most malicious Android apps come from outside the Google Play Store. If you download a pirated app from a shady website, you shouldn’t be surprised if it brings malware onto your system.

Stupid Things Some Naija Girls Do To Get Married

Taking his photograph to Cele church for a prophetess to pray over or a powerful Alfa. Heard it works like a charm.             

1. Snatching a friend or relation’s man. All is fair in love and war! Rumour has it that women have resorted to locking their phones, hiding their men and coding their gist from so-called friends cos it’s a jungle out there…
2. Re-inventing themselves. Pretence is the order of the day. No man wants to tame the shrew or teach the inexperienced or make an honest woman out of a dishonest one so once marriage is desired, women package themselves in pseudo, ready-made, easy-to-use, highly desirable packages. After marriage, what you see is what you get!

Queen of Pop Madonna Joins #BringBackOurGirls Campaign

 

Madonna has added her name to the growing number of people in the world who are demanding to rescue the abducted Chibok schoolgirls in Borno.

The queen of pop Madonna shared this pic of Malala, the Pakistani schoolgirl who stood up to the Taliban and defended her right to an education, on Instagram and wrote, “223 Teenage girls being held captive in Nigeria by Religious fundamentalists who believe it is a sin to educate girls! They are being sold as brides in the market place. This insanity has to stop! What is the US government doing about this? #bringourgirls back. #revolutionoflove”.

Chibok girls: France offers to help Nigeria with security intelligence

The French govt has offered to help Nigeria by providing intelligence that would help in rescuing the kidnapped girls. This was made known by the Foreign Affairs minister of France, Laurent Fabius.

 

Speaking about it today, Mr Fabius said;

"The President has instructed to put the (intelligence) services at the disposal of Nigeria and neighboring countries. This morning he asked us to contact the Nigerian president to tell him that a specialized unit with all the means we have in the region was at the disposal of Nigeria to help find and recover these young girls"

Diagnosing And Ending An Addictive Relationship.

Love can cause a drug-like high, producing fantasies, causing sleeplessness and causing you to ignore other things in your life for this single element. An addictive relationship is characterized by the need to continue to engage with the person despite obvious negative consequences. You should diagnose your relationships with other people and then go through psychological and physical steps to remove yourself from the patterns of an obsessive attachment.

Part 1 of 3: Diagnosing an Addictive Relationship

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   Make a list. Write a column for positive things you get out of the relationship, and write another column to list the negative things that you get from the relationship. Dig deep into your life to establish whether connections are socially, mentally, emotionally, professionally healthy.
   • Among the positive things that may be included in this list is the rush that you feel when the person you love pays attention to you or provides you with something. It is the feeling of addiction that you will need to accept and tackle.

PHOTONEWS: #BringBackOurGirls Protest In London, Dublin And Izmir

People all over the world gathered to protest the abduction of hundreds of GGSS Chibok female students in Borno.

Ireland protesters came to the Nigerian Embassy in Dublin to stage protest. The rally took place from 10am to 1pm today, May 7, at 56 Lesson Park, Dublin 6.